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Walk

Almost every evening after Figlia is back from the daycare, I take her out in the neighbourhood (weather permitting). The good thing about walking with the baby again and again in the same environs is that people tend to stop by, recognize her, and children stop playing to go marvel at her or touch her cheeks. 

There is a pleasant woman that I occasionally cross paths with. Her daughter is several years older than Figzy. So, she was also walking and she kind of joined us*. Over the conversation that we were into, the issue of second child** came up, and well, with that I ended up sharing my entire Infertility/TTC bio with. We began talking at the base of the steps to her apartment, and by the time we had completed one round of the block, my entire history had been told.

It's amazing to be able to squeeze several years of happenings in a walk not worthy of more than ten minutes. I also found it pretty easy to share it in toto and without a tinge of any mood westerlies, simply because the outcome of every single thing that I underwent was in my arms. 

It would not have been easy for me to describe this, had I still been on the winter side of IF. It would not have been easy for me to verbalize it had I been on the trough side of neonatal loss. 

The lightness that pervades me after the battle, is because of Figlia.


 * - I do not like to walk in groups, and I do not actively join one. 
** - Fodder for another post

Comments

  1. Mina1 February 2013 at 16:01

    You have such a talent to leave me speechless with the images your poetic language evokes. Also, I need to make a conscious effort to breathe after this post. You do this time and time again... I am in awe.

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  2. lostintranslation1 February 2013 at 17:59

    I am so happy for you that Figlia is allowing you to feel this lightness, despite the preceding darkness, and that you were able to share your story.

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  3. areyoukiddingme1 February 2013 at 22:07

    It's wonderful that she gives you that lightness. I think the ability to talk about your struggles to get her here is a very important part of attaining peace.

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  4. Anonymous1 February 2013 at 22:28

    I love your tone lately. The lightness that you mention? I can definitely feel it. It makes me happy for you.

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