It was my niece's second birthday on March 29, and we took a trip down to be with the birthday girl.
The party was on the terrace and we were busy decorating the area. Sometime in the commotion, only three people remained on venue: me, DH and my niece who was at-it (a balloon had burst, and she had been upset).
You see, there is a staple question I bombard my hubby with at random moments, and watching her, I put it forward again:
The party was on the terrace and we were busy decorating the area. Sometime in the commotion, only three people remained on venue: me, DH and my niece who was at-it (a balloon had burst, and she had been upset).
You see, there is a staple question I bombard my hubby with at random moments, and watching her, I put it forward again:
'What if we do not have kids?'
'We will always have her.' (finger-pointing at a running kid)
'No, but what if we never have kids?'
'I already have a kid.'
'What? Who?'
'It's you.'
I started laughing. Hard.
The moment had passed. Husband dear had survived the question yet again. (And with a great comeback, I must say!).
I love my niece very much. It is just that when she was about to have her first birthday, it reminded me deeply of how I should have been pregnant.
Now as the years are simply fusing, and she would keep on having her birthday again and again on the same date, I have nothing to do but to pick up my sorry feelings and get over it.
And you know what? This year I was better already.
But, I feel bad about associating her with something unfulfilled.
In a way, I also feel happy that atleast her being there has taken off some of the steam that was building up about kids inside the family.
I am not a prime-target of Mount Bump Watch, because everybody *sigh* expects me to be having a lot of trouble in that department.
I am not having trouble. I am just not getting pregnant. There is a difference, if you know what I mean.
^WiseGuy^
It's tough when you can see time passing in such a concrete way. Your DH had a great response to your question, tho... absolutely perfect!
ReplyDeleteYour DH is a very smart man.
ReplyDeleteNieces and nephews are a bit of a mixed blessing for those of us who do not have children but desperately want them. Though the blessing is lopsided to the positive side, I must add.
ReplyDeleteLove your husband's comeback!
There is a difference wise woman, I'm glad for you that her birthdays are easier.
ReplyDeleteAwesome comeback from DH. I am so glad you did better this year and just think next year will be even better I just know it. xoxoxo
ReplyDeleteLove your DHs comeback, lol.
ReplyDeleteAnd yeah, "I am not having trouble. I am just not getting pregnant. There is a difference, if you know what I mean." Very profound statement there, and so true.
"But, I feel bad about associating her with something unfulfilled."
ReplyDeleteI feel this way about my nephew, but yet, I can't change it.
And there is a difference. I, unfortunately, am tending toward the other side of the difference these days.
It's nice to see that even a wise guy like you can be surprised with a line. And your husband's was great. It's a couple of words like that that make you all mushy inside and feel alive. ;-)
ReplyDeleteI LOVE your DH's response!
ReplyDeleteNice one DH! Though I understand your point about associating your niece with your unfulfilled desire - it feels so close, the joy so palpable, it hurts so much. xx
ReplyDeleteI am liking your DH!
ReplyDeleteThat was an excellent comeback on your DH's behalf!!!!
ReplyDeleteI'm also the only non-breeder in my family, it's easier now that the 'others' have children as the grandparents are looking less in my direction and asking less question. Takes the pressure off doesn't it? But it also adds new pressure because you have these beautiful neices/nephews who stand as a reminder of what we don't have. Bitter sweet, yes. But more bitter than sweet if you ask me!